My twins are already manpiulating me!!!
Comes a time in a baby’s life and you have to start teaching them:
Right and Wrong
Do and Don’t
Yes and No! Yes my friends the time has come… I have to teach my babies what the word “NO” means… It’s not a happy time in the Schwartz house hold.
And what did I get…? That face Up THERE!!
What on earth am I supposed to do with that?
So, what did I do? Scooped up my baby boy and given him some mommy lovin…
My twins are already learning manipulation…
First Spice Girls-
Thought it would be a good idea to make a come back
You know the ones, scandalously clad girls with silly names encouraging questionable realationship behavior…. “If you wannabe my lover you gotta get with my friends… Make it last forever friendship never ends… “
~No really what in the heck was that song talking about…!!???
Now New Kids On The Block are making a comeback!
All of us who liked them are now in our 30′s and we KNOW better… COME ON!!!!
Listen all you silly lil girl and boy bands…
Give it UP!!
To date I have tracked about 30 miles! I am heading south so, if my start point is Savannah, GA( I said hello to the Moon Berwry Ghost…)
Then that would put me… In MIDWAY! How about that???
Midway, GA Home of TopHat Affairs… Angie’s Diner and the Midway Museum.
Don’t let our one stop light town fool ya! We are a pretty happening town!!!
No, this isn’t one of those… TMI blogs!(and you know you have read them!!)
I stalk Kellie Raspberry’s blog from Kidd Kradick in the morning.
The steps she is going through reminds me so much of myself when I found myself newly single. Kellie is ready and out in the dating world. But, she is finding what many women find.
2. Married/separated men
3. Players/Game hunters/Bed Hoppers
Kellie made the News Years Resolution to be “naughty” in the New Year.
She is failing at it! Not because, she is not trying. Its because she has values and morals and when we try and be something we are not, it just doesnt’ work. Kellie is a beautiful, sexy, intelligent women.
What is really funny about this, is one year I made the SAME New Years resolution.
I was going to be sexy- wear low cut shirts, wear sexy lil out fits…
I was going to be DA BOMB!
I was going to date more… I was going to be flirty and naughty!
And… I deserved it! I was in school full time, A single mommy and DAMN IT I NEEDED TO BE AROUND ADULTS!
Well… As pathetic as this sounds, being naughty was short lived. I couldn’t get away from my kacki pants and white shirts, although I did adopt heels(kinda naughty right?) AND I did wear sexy under things( more naughty… I would say??)…
I saw this great comerical about eHarmony and tried them… Well… eHarmony rejected me SOOO… that pretty much put a damper on me “dating” more… My experience with other dating sites was a total nightmare…
And… I wasn’t ready to introduce my babies to another man! Nope! I still wanted them all to myself…
So… when I met Jason(my now hubby) Spring of 05 I knew he was the one… But, I that is for another blog!
So, moral to this story?
Reinventing yourself is good but, don’t compromise what makes you “you”, sometimes sticking to old habits is the best way to go!!!
I wish Kellie Raspberry the best of luck( Naughty-ness and all!!!)
Yesterday I went to Savannah, GA Savannah Bloggers UnConfrence.
Let me brag here for a moment. I was in the presence of some FABULOUS ladies. Acually they are WAY beyond fabulous… I had the pleasure of meeting Jessica Lebos from Skirt Magazine, Anne Hart of Southren Momma’s who writes a colum for the Savannah Morning New ( LOVE HER!) April Groves from My Beautiful Chaos and Making Life Work for You(Of course You know how much I LOVE HER!!!),
gummi Bunni Her blog is just a wonderful.
I had the most wonderful time with all of these brilliant ladies! By far I think the blogging working mommies was the BEST session! But, of course I am biast! Sigh, What more could you ask for?
And of course a few other familiar faces… Chris and Lisa Cree ( if you don’t know WHO Lisa Cree is WHERE have you been? She is “OUR” marketing director for eWomens-Network.)
I also met Dizzy Girl
And Moon Dreams and Day Beams
All of the people I met were just as wonderful as their blogs are!
Yep… Still on that bloggin high!!!
All the colors of the rainbow, is the title of my newest edition to my blog ( Thank you Yo Yenta for this amazing idea!!!). I am going to write about Autism on a regular basis!!
I want to educate you, entertain you, and hopefully I will be able to even tug on the heart strings!!
WELCOME TO HOLLAND
Emily Perl Kingsley.
c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this……
When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip – to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.”
“Holland?!?” you say. “What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.”
But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around…. and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills….and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy… and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.”
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away… because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But… if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things … about Holland.
Yep… This pretty much sums it up! Untill next time be looking for AllThe Colores OF The Rainbow! Maybe we can get some other mother’s here with Special needs children to speak out! Strength in numbers is always better then just one! But, in retrospect… All it takes is one voice!!!!
I can dish out tough love!! I can also take tough love!!
It’s a part of learning effectively!!
If I offend my fellow readers…. Think of it as your best friend telling you the hard cold truth!! I am not being mean I am writing to make you better daters!!!
Here me out… Their is no such think as
” He lead me on…”
” He strung me along”
“He played me”
The power of the word NO! Goes a long ways! It’s within your control to:
A. Not take that phone call!
B. Delete that email…
C. Delete the voice mail
D. Ignore him
HELLO YOUR BETTER THEN A BOOTY CALL!!! YOUR BETTER THEN A PART TIME GIRFRIEND!!!
Everything is with in your control… What happens when we get dumped?
Our self esteem suffers! We wonder what in the hell is wrong with me? Most likely nothing. Just something was not right within the relationship.
I know what you are thinking BULL!
Everything was great! Everything was wonderful, We fit in every single way! It was circumstances beyond our control that make us break up… NO! WAIT! STOP!…
I want you to really think about it. I want you to think WHY you have a broken heart.
Then we have, he still wants to be friends, have sex and do EVERYTHING we did without the commitment!
WHY ON EARTH would that be OK with you?
THEN when things do not work out… WE have the “he lead me on…” Blah blah blah… AND if you knew he was unattainable then it’s YOUR FAULT….
SULK by yourself…
Listen to break up music ON YOUR OWN…
Watch sappy movies ON YOUR OWN!!
I have no time for your water works.
You got yourself into this mess because;
YOU needed somebody so badly you chose to put your heart into a place that you knew was not going to work out!
YOU needed somebody so you settled.
YOU needed to feel needed.
Let me say we as humans need that BUT, not at the cost of our self esteem!
Listen all you amazing single women… Why are you going to waste your time on somebody who clearly doesn’t care for you the way you should be loved and cared for…??????
When you could be spending your time on somebody who is more then willing to give you 100%!
You might ask me how do you fix it? The only person that can fix you is you…. But, I can tell you, your fabulous and you deserve better!
Untill then, as I have always said… Go and find yourself something to do… Don’t sit idle… All your going to do is sit there AND THINK that is BAD… Now is a great time to pick up a hobby… What ever the case maybe… GET OUT and DO SOMETHING!!
Untill the next time…
Remember your amazing your fabulous and you DESERVE BETTER!!!
Does it exist?
Can we reach that Utopian of love?
I say YES!
But, it’s not with another person.
We reach perfect love when we first learn to love ourselves first!
It’s a struggle and the road is lonely.
I would know… I lived on that lonely road for many years.
When I got divorced, I made a pact with myself I took time off to learn about myself.
I had no idea who I was… I had no idea what I really liked to watch on TV or if I liked to read. Did I really like to read fantasy books?
Did I really like my ex’s favorite shade of blue?
Or was blue one of my least favorite colors.?
I had to really go down the line and check off what I liked or if I liked it impress my partner.
I had ro figure out who Dolores was on her terms. The one lesson I took with me and it still rings true to this day…I
n order to love you have to TRULY love yourself first.
I will use me as an example. When I was married I conformed to each man I was with. My first husband liked heavy metal… My second husband liked wrestling… DOUBLE BLAH… Some might call it compromise I call it uppet syndrome.
I needed these men to love me. so, I became what they wanted. I had no opinons of my own and I was scared to make waves. I was a puppet
Being single.is hard! Nobody likes to be alone and nobody likes to sit back and watch happy couples around them. But, just remember, if you can stand your own company and figure things out on your own. You will be step closer to finding that perfect love!
Dreams can come true… Just make sure you believe in your own dreams first…