Archive | December, 2009

Once it’s said…

4 Dec

You can’t take it back!! 

Ok I know I said I was going to do a follow-up blog on my last post but, all this Tiger Woods stuff has me thinking about “life”…   

Have you ever been intoxicated, and / or acted on impulse(BAD  very very BAD!!)… Then hopped on –  myspace, facebook’d, or Twitter’d…  And just put your business “out-there” and then regretted it?

  I have…  I am totally guilty!   Ugh. 

Not some of my finer moments… 

Always remember this…  Somebody is always watching your blog, MySpace’d,twitter page, and /or Facebook’d!  Everybody is reading your thoughts-  You will have a couple of stalkers!  ( ex’s are always GREAT for that so, are frenimes( ex friends) and people who just don’t like you!!!) 
Let’s not forget –  Friends of friends, family, you name it will get read …  Even if you only have it up for a couple of seconds…  It will get read!

So if your intoxicated…  Put the phone down…  Don’t get on the computer!!
If you have a tendency to be an “emotional” poster” then before you post…  Call a friend…  Go for a walk…  Do anything but POST!  Think about it and the repercussions it could have in the very end! 
Listen…  Take if from somebody who…  is an emotional poster…! 
Be the better person!  You will feel better if you just take the high road in the end…  What ever it is will pass…  Tomorrow is another day…  and yes you will get through whatever drama is happening!  Trust me on this!! 

Just be the better person!  Take it from somebody that has been on both sides of the coin..  I can look at myself in the mirror with dignity if I just keep my BIG mouth shut!


2 Dec

Tis the Season of good deeds!!   What good deeds have you done lately??  Do you give to the bell ringers?  Do they annoy you?? 
Do you have a family traditions of doing a good deed? 
During these hard economic times are you still going to give as generously as you may have in the past…?? 
If you still plan on giving and are on a tight budget do you have any suggestions to somebody who does want to still help somebody out??

Blog is short and sweet!  But, it will have a follow-up blog tomorrow!   Even if I don’t get any comments!!  I have a couple of things to say about “giving” and random acts of kindness!! 

See y’all tomorrow!

New Month… New Leaf…

1 Dec

How do I start my blog??   With Doom and Gloom or on a Happy Festive note…  Hmmm…  Ok

How about a cliff notes on the Doom and Gloom???   And how about I concentrate on what I am going to be working on in terms of bettering ME? Yeah I think I like that better!!

I will start from Oct 28, 09 my girly surgery ( Vaginal hysterectomy) 
No longer live in the same place (sad about that…  But, we are money-saving mode)
Live with parents while Honey finds us a place in Hotlanta( Which really turned out to be a blessing all in itself)
Got my girly plumbing taken out-  Complications ( came home with a cath because they found a small hole in my bladder. that is the definition of HELL, Not to mention a couple of crashes on the table …  Nice huh?)
Ended a couple of friendships( Very sad and my feelings are still hurt but, very necessary)
Almost died( I HAVE Pulmonary embolism(s) (yes plural, and yeah I still have them…  and will have them for about six months or longer of my life…)
And now…  I am on blood thinners for the next 6 months or so
Oh Yeah…( this just in yesterday)  Honey got into a car accident and totalled a car that has seen- Eight kids, two divorces, three weddings… And an ASS load of Drama!  It wasn’t the prettiest car to look at – but, never the less…  I am sad it had such a horrible fate!-  By the way..  Honey is fine ( Thank you God AGAIN!!!)
My Dog died- That’s two in a year span( RIP Sammy Bear!  He died of natural causes…  A heart attack…  Nobody’s fault)

WHEW was that a lot to take in!!  Did y’all get all of that…  If not I will give you a second to read it again!

I have turned over a new leaf( well again but, foreal this time!).. 
And the sobering truth of the matter is I SHOULD NOT BE HERE WRITING this!! 
I was allowed to live because God preformed a miracle in my life, just like the day he breathed life into my son!  And I think I am running out of lives and, I just don’t want to test that out… 

Now I have already failed one test…  Ugh.  I allowed somebody to get under my skin and OH boy what drama did I cause( Ok did you see I how took responsiblity over some of the situation?  See I knew I should have kept my mouth shut… But, I didn’t and I CHOSE to fight…  You just have NO idea how many different times I have had to keep my mouth shut…  Any who!!  Yes, I know in ways I was wrong… )!  Ugh!  And Why?  Because I have no trust  in my  husband… 
Was I really in a state to be arguing????  You bet your booty I WAS NOT!  Still am not…  It was like an outside body experience…  Inside I was telling myself to “SHUT YOUR DAMN MOUTH!!  But, my body kept going over and over and over…  Awful…)

When I turned over a new leaf…  I wiped the slate clean with my husband…  Oh yeah another D&G( oh that’s my short-term for Doom and Gloom) thing…
My marriage in the complete crapper…  Forgot about that…( see clean slate <smiles>) 
So, in order to keep my promise to God, I pray on a daily basis that he helps me with my short fuse and when I do start breaking down I pray that God gives me the strength to keep my big mouth SHUT and TRUST! 
Pick your battles, don’t sweat the small stuff!  Trust me on this…  Life is too short and if you tell God your going to turn over a new leaf… Trust me he listens and he will be expecting you to keep your promise. 

Life has a way of humbling you…  Don’t let it be the hard way…  I want everybody to take a good look in the mirror today and admit truthfully one of your faults and challenge yourself to work on just that one!  We as humans will never be perfect BUT, we can improve and become better people! 

In the mean time  I will work on trusting  my husband!