It use to be that I hated looking the way I did. I wanted to “blend” in( whatever that means now) I wanted to have blond hair and blue eyes and I wanted some “cute” little name like Alexis or Casey. Anything BUT, Dolores. Do you even know what Dolores means in Spanish? PAIN it means PAIN!! Who on earth would name their children PAIN!??? (ROLLS EYES) I was an ugly duckling… I was awkward and my nose (STILL HATE MY NOSE) looked like a beak(still a beak)… Brown hair and brown eyes??… BORING! I was UGLY! So, when I was going through grade school of course I was chubby… AND yep(not quite sure if you thinking it… ) BIG bottle cap glasses… blah…
I was chubby until I went to California. My relatives really didn’t like me being over weight so, they watched everything I would eat and criticized me for putting anything in my mouth other then carrots and salad and made my chubby behind learn what exercising was all about!
(IN comes my hatred for the bicycle and situps…)
And the fun part was… Welcome eating disorder(no joke here) I did lose a TON of weight that summer,at the age of 12 I was 120 I got down to 90( I am not quite sure how much 12 year olds are supposed to weigh so)… And STILL my beloved Auntie critized me because I wasn’t as SKINNY as she wanted me to be…( I wasn’t as thin as her daughter…)
I wanted to keep the weight off and I did, I was already a cheerleader( a chubby one) but, never the less a cheerleader! I had people complimenting me and I even had boys starting to like me!
They liked me because I lost all the weight not because, I had brown eyes and brown hair…
EVen when you did grow up in a military community you had your clicks, it was hard to break into them. And I did ONLY after I lost a ton of weight and was introduced to contacts. (why are we so shallow??)
So, thereafter, I pretty much embraced my looks(beak and all). I didn’t become uncomfortable with my looks again until I got here… Even still… NO southern belle could beat my hot sexy mix– Italian, French, Spanish, Mexican, Native American…. BEAT THAT!!!
Point is… I am pretty much back to were I was back then, FAT, BLAH although being brunette ROCKS… But, you know what I mean? I am back THERE… and I know it’s all within my control BUT, still it’s hard to be in a society were sex sells and in order to be beautiful you have to be thin!
I look at my beautiful daughter and I hope to GOD I can instill self esteem in her! I do not want to go through everyday wishing she is or looked like somebody else. I do understand all children have their awkward stage, but I want to be a better role model during that hard time.. BETTER then what I had. I tell her everyday how pretty she is… Because she REALLY is… And I am not just saying that. She has big brown light eyes and light brown hair oh and her tan what a beautiful color she gets… I just never want her to say 15 years from now that I set a bad example and I made her feel less then…
So, here is my question… DO our parents really mold our self esteem or do we as individuals create our own high or low self esteem?
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